Humans produce pheromones from our genitals, nipples, and underarms. No one really knows if we humans respond to these pheromones the way the rest of the animal world does but scientists tried them out on pigs and it worked for them. This makes you wonder if we might end up getting the wrong animal to desire us.
9. Love at fast sight?
You’ve got between 90 seconds to 4 minutes to make someone desire you. At least that is what psychologists tell us. And if you think you can use your witty banter to attract someone, think again. Within 90 seconds to 4 minutes you’re desirability is based on 88% your body language, tone and speed of your voice and only 7% is based on the words you say.
8. Love is in the brain
So what exactly makes us attracted to someone? A bunch of neurotransmitters in the brain called “monoamines” that produce all of the feelings we associate with love. We are talking things like a decrease in appetite or a need for sleep, because we are obsessed with someone.
7. Desire is in the numbers
Believe it or not Attractiveness is a mathematical ration and faces that are mathematically average are the most attractive. Now we are not talking average in the usual way, we are talking average in mathematical terms. In other words the closer your ears, eyes and nose are positioned on your face according to an average ratio the more attractive you are. As an example, the space between the eyes and mouth should be about 36% of the overall length of the face, but the span of the eyes are best at 46% of the overall width of your face. These ratios apply to the body as well. Hip-waist ratios are part of a person’s ‘attractiveness’ as well.
6. Biology, psychology and culture
These factors attract us to specific types of people. Fischer in her books, Anatomy of Love, Why We Love, and Why Him? Why Her? states that there are 4 types of people.
- Explorers (creative and dominated by dopamine)
- Builder (sensible and soaked in serotonin)
- Director (reasoning and ruled by testosterone)
- Negotiator (intuitive, idealistic, and all about the estrogen and oxytocin)
5. Love makes you high.
Fall in love and a person experiences the same euphoria that cocaine produces. Scientists using MRI scans show that the neural network linked to cocaine use is activated when a person is in love.
4. Love Doesn’t Hurt
Want to be less vulnerable to pain then fall in love. Dr. Arthur Aron, a psychology professor at the State University of New York of Stony Brook, said, “It turns out that some of the areas of the brain activated by feelings of intense love are the same areas that drugs use to reduce pain.”
3. Details, details, details
It turns out that desire is all about small details! A person’s voice, pants color, hair and stuff like that jas a huge impact on a person’s attractiveness.
For example studies indicate that guys prefer women that have higher voices and higher voices are indicators of elevated levels of estrogen. On the other hand, women desire men with low voices and you guessed it, that is linked to higher testosterone levels.
Another example is that guys were attracted to women wearing red rather than women in blue; red is supposed to be a signal for sexual excitability.
In another study, women seemed to be attracted to men with a 5 o’clock shadow rather than a shaven face.
2. What keeps a man home?
Just 3% to 5% of other mammals are monogamous with their partners. So what would drive a man to have a monogamous relationship?
University of Bonn in Germany has an answer. According to them, physical activities involved in a steady relationship such as cuddling, massages, sexual intercourse, etc. produce Oxytocin in guys. Guys can get addicted to that oxytocin and stay home for the “fix” their lover gives.
1. Love at first sight takes 8.2 seconds
This may be a crazy fact, but if when a guy first looks at you and he looks at you for at least 8.2 seconds. The research shows that men who are attracted to a women will look at her for at least 8.2 seconds when he first sees her. Less than that and your chances drop off. Interestingly this does not hold true for women.