How well do you understand men?
All of my guy friends seem to agree that they can’t understand women, and that women are so complex and, in fact, this is true for most of us guys. As I have talked to many women, I find that they think the same things about men. Most of the women I have talked to about this say they would give anything to understand what makes a man “tick.”
The good news is, is that men are not really all that complicated, the truth is that women apply there templates to men which makes them seem complicated. The real problem with women understanding men has to do with feelings and emotions. Men don’t easily share these things verbally, but if you know the signs they will quickly tell you exactly what his emotions are.
Here is a rather quick overview of 3 things that most women do not know about us guys and would never in a million years guess. In fact, once I reveal them many of you will wonder if this possibly could be.
1) Men are more sensitive than women.
What? I can hear you exclaiming. To understand men you need to know that men don’t have the ability to share their emotions the way woman do and thus they can’t recover from emotional trauma as effectively as a woman. This results in, most men shutting down from as a protective measure. When a men have suffered deep emotional trauma and then hear words to the effect that “he should just let his feelings out,” or that he should “share” his feeling more, he feels that if he lets his feelings out, he will be judged as less of a man, or in some cases he won’t be able to control them.
2) Men hate fighting.
For men, there is a difference between conflict and problem solving. Fighting, for guys, means someone has to win and the other needs to lose. Also, guys prefer conflict that is non-emotional so that there is no danger of losing control of their emotions. If conflict gets emotional, such as in an argument with his girlfriend of wife, it is very difficult him to control his feelings and that is why we guys become quiet and withdrawn. I know this “silent treatment” seems personal to a woman, but in most cases it is simply a guys way f not being out of control.
3) Men want to get married.
Our modern media portrayal of men views them as moronic glands always seeking to be expressed when the truth is that most of men get married. While the “freedom” of bachelorhood is portrayed as one wild party, in reality, it is lonely. And while we are on this subject, when asked, the majority of men said that finding a trustworthy woman was as important or even more important than finding one that was “hot.”
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